Mamatha Subbaiah’s article on Horoscope Hurdles, or for that matter Horrors (!) has had an avalanche of responses. CLN News-desk has picked on Appanderanda Vishwanath Belliappa’s response to highlight how the youth respond to the toll and frustrations of Horoscopes. – CLN Newsdesk
I am so glad Mamatha brought this topic up for debate. It’s incredibly well-articulated and truly a “need of the hour” discussion.
Meeting an astrologer isn’t inherently wrong, but the over-reliance on astrological compatibility is where the problem lies. My concern is that it often overshadows genuine human connection and shared aspirations as Mamatha articulated.
I believe what’s truly missing today is a deeper conversation between the boy and girl themselves. They should be asking:
- What do we want out of this marriage?
- What kind of experience do we want to create together?
- What culture do we envision for our family? It is all about what they can together co-create!!
Essentially, they need to establish a shared vision for their marriage.
Unfortunately, parental influence remains dominant and must stop. This present generation is truly amazing. They are educated, humble, less prone to violence, and more conscious of their food and drink consumption. They understand limits and possess strong ambition. A significant and positive turnaround I have observed recently is that Kodava boys increasingly desire Kodava girls, and vice versa. Inter-community marriages are on the decline or fading away – this is a great transition we are seeing!
Ultimately, marriage should be about co-creating a life, an experience, and a culture for their family together. It’s about approaching every task together, without endless debates about who has to do what. What’s wrong in a boy cooking and girl washing the car? What’s wrong in a girl taking their in-laws to the doctor and the boy taking paternity leave and helping the girl, cleaning the child, when their child is born?
This vision must be discussed openly by the couple. Parents should play a crucial role in enabling this dialogue, become a catalyst for a wonderful marriage of their children, rather than dictating the terms. Working with the heart is more important than working with the mind – it is all about purpose and not always logic!
Of course, factors like an introvert and an extrovert dynamic might require understanding, but these nuances emerge organically from conversations between the boy and the girl. Simply listing out expectations and trying to match them item by item is, in my opinion, no different from going to an astrologer to match 36 points – a concept I, like you, don’t fully understand!
I believe in scientific astrology –
the kind an uncle of mine espoused .. he is a man of science and chanced upon astrology .. and calls out people who say for eg: worship planets and so on.
The simple truth is that everything created by Nature copes with planetary movements and other such elevated gyan. At the end of the day, we have to accept life for what it is – the good and the bad – the yin and the yang. Yin is the passive, negative force, and yang the active, positive force. According to this theory, wise people will detect these forces in the seasons, in their food, and so on, and will regulate their lives accordingly.
I am truly touched by the spontaneous, warm and thoughtful responses to my article on “Horoscope Hurdles”.
What began as a personal reflection has clearly struck a collective chord. It is comforting to know that many of us have silently carried these invisible burdens – the expectations set by stars, astrological charts and antiquated old beliefs. Thank you for reading with open hearts and gf minds – more importantly responding with such grace and candor. May we continue to question gently, believe in what we feel as individuals and live freely! Respect and Learn from Nature and everything will flow from there.